Define Beauty, Stop Body Shaming!


Body shaming. A discrimination that many of us face at least once in our life time. Many of us don’t speak about it because we’re ashamed and afraid of our vulnerability. Instead we let it eat us throughout and slowly we lose self confidence and develop self doubt which leads to self loathing.
I was called fat and ugly. I was called a black indian smelly cunt. I was told I looked like a piece of shit that a man would only want to fuck and not marry. And that no good looking man would want to be seen walking next to someone with my body shape because it would mean he would be settling.
So I took a good look at myself in the mirror and this is what I saw.
I saw a woman. A woman who defined her self worth by her own worth. A woman who stood up for herself and footed her ground. She’s made sacrifices to be recognised and worked hard because this woman I saw in the mirror is a high achiever. This woman in the mirror was just not a dreamer but a fulfiller. This woman has aged like wine and she looked damn fine. Her brown skin was beautiful and that uneven skin added debt to her story. The grey hair shyly turned silver and now glorious just took her value even higher. It demanded respect! Her eyesight has never been sharper as it portrayed 37 years of history, art, science, geography, matriculation and technology. Her smile was sincere and forgiving because she’s seen the world, for it’s generosity and appreciated the abundance in acceptance of every living that walked on this earth. She’s well travelled and well read. She could recite Shakespeare and write beautifully. She’s courage and liberation. She’s different and unique.
This woman is Me. My body is mine and not yours for scrutiny. This woman you know nothing about is more than just her body shape, size, weight, colour, ethnicity and language. This woman was just getting started..and her story is written by her. None else! So screw you for your definition of beauty. I’m not ordinary.
If you’ve faced body shaming, racial abuse and discrimination.  Voice out. You are not alone. Together we will make this world a better place.




Spice, sour and salty. Sweet, tangy and creamy. Let’s talk food!

Food – we all love it.

From home cooked meals to fine dining. Speak about food and you will definitely get anyones’ attention.

I’m a Malaysian and we Malaysians love our food! In fact, we greet you by saying, ” Hi, sudah makan kah belum?”  – “Hi, Have you ate, already?” . It’s a simple theory, really. If you have ate and the reply is Yes, then we know you are well but if it’s a No.. it’s time we ate before we uttered another word!

Growing up in Malaysia gave me a childhood which celebrated an array of cuisines – Indian, Malay, Chinese, Thai and the introduction of the far, far…West.

Most dishes were cooked at home as this was the supreme rule of the household. No matter what time you came home, food will be served!

Of course, occasionally we ate out at family style restaurants or kept it simple by visiting our Colonel Kentucky (this was the beginning and end to the western food influence of my childhood) down town.

Regardless the cuisine, we made sure we ate together! This is the importance of food and the role it plays in Asian culture. We don’t need a special occasion or festive season to gather around the table to enjoy a nice meal with the family. And, if you are a friend, you need no invitation!

Because it’s about sharing. Sharing a meal with another member of your family and friends. If you have travelled to Malaysia, Singapore, India, China or Japan, you will notice how food is served to the oldest and the youngest persons in the table first before filling their own plate, even at a restaurant. This is what food means to us. Respect and appreciation for the bonds we share amongst people we love and care, regardless of age and gender.

But when it came to food, to us, it was just not about eating. There’s more… something magnificent about the entire experience of dining, whether if you are seated on a table or on the matted floor, on fine chinas or banana leave – food always brought people together and to me, it brings back the fondest of memories.

The greatest of cultural diversities and wonders of traditions. What better way than the sound of laughters that fill the air, that could possibly replace this form of happiness. And what better way to convey your identity if not by the simplest contraction known and enjoyed by us from the beginning of time.

I hope you try my recipes and enjoy them as much as I do. So, feel free to join me for a meal and a conversation. We shall speak food!




Yasaka Hall, Gion Corner, Kyoto.

Japanese Traditional Art and Theatre performances at the Yasaka Hall, Gion Corner.



Maiko Gallery showcasing some of the hair accessories worn by the Maiko dancers.

Tea Ceremony – Ryurei  and Koto, a six-stringed zither.

Kyogen Theatre – Comedy.                  Bunraku Puppet Theatre.

Flower Arrangement or Ikebana.

Kyo-mai Dance by Geisha / Geiko.

Gagaku Court Music.

First article – published today.

After months under construction, I have finally published my first article – today.

I would like to thank you for your patience.

This category will now be updated monthly.I will be covering a wide range of topics and I look forward to engaging with a wider audience out there! I would love to hear from all of you and any topics that we could discuss.

So, please leave me your feedback and comments.

Happy reading!




The Importance of Sunshine Vitamin.

Hello everybody!

Hope all of us are well bound and back on track with our lives post the festive seasons.

As we step into the New Year of 2018, many of us want to spend more time on taking care of ourselves. Building a better and healthier version of us.

Nevertheless, there will be many exciting exchanges on the usual new year new me transformations and resolutions, a travelling around the world list, career change and prospects, so on and so forth.

As much as I too enjoy the flirtatious foreplays of these “talks”, just out of curiosity and because I really care to ask –  How are you really feeling?

I live in the UK, we have the occasional visit from Mr. Sunshine. He plays hide and seek, leaving us cold, brittle and Vitamin D deficient.

A conversation with a friend lead me to do a little research, then only to share my findings through this article.

The topic in discussion was exertion of exercise to build stamina through Vitamin D, efficiently.

And how lacking Vitamin D, could leave us feeling debilitated and left untreated, take a major toll and risk our health in the long term.

But before we get up close and personal – reading, let’s just remind ourselves why it is crucial not to deprive our body off –  Vitamin D.

These are just a few health symptoms and risks associated with Vitamin D deficiency.

  • Chronic fatigue and lethargy causing the individual to constantly feel weak and tired.
  • Overtime developing high levels of cortisol which leads to depression, obesity, infertility and hormonal imbalance.
  • Deformities of the bones as a result to the body being unable to absorb calcium from food and supplements efficiently.
  • Higher risks of Dementia (53%) and the Alzheimer’s Disease (122%) found on patients with severe deficiency.
  • Low levels of Vitamin D in the blood increases the chance of neuromuscular diseases Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), Congenital Myopathy and Congenital Myasthenic Syndrome.


So, what is Vitamin D?

Vitamin D is produced by our body, after the exposure to sunlight.

Like most vitamins and minerals which are highly essential for the growth and development of our body, Vitamin D helps regulate calcium to rebuild and phosphorus to maintain bone health, the postural structure of the spinal cord and speed up recovery processes of the skeletal muscles between periods of injuries caused by sports, exercises and accidents.

It also plays an important role in the modulation of cell growth and reduce inflammations by strengthening the immune system in our body.

A young male requires an intake of 200 IU to 400 IU and 20 IU for every year as he gets older. A female requires somewhere between 600 IU to 800 IU as she passes the age 65 onwards.

If you’re asking why women recommended daily value is higher than their counterparts, it is simply because women are more likely at risks of osteoporosis. Also, because women share their womb for the healthy development and growth of the foetus and lactate after child birth.

Dr Andrew Weil M.D., Professor and Founder/Director of The University of Arizona, Center of Integrative Medicine recommends that adults increase their intake up to 2000 IU per day to reap the benefits of Vitamin D.


A recent study also suggested increasing the intake of Vitamin D alone, can speed up the healing time of minor burn injuries on victims!


Where can I find it?

Simply by consuming foods which are oil soluble (the good fat) and rich in Vitamin D is the easiest way.

  • Fatty fish such as Salmon, Trout, Mackerel, Tuna and Sardines.
  • Beef Liver and Pork Chops.
  • Dairy products and substitutes– Yogurts, Butter, Cheese, Soya Milk, Almond Milk.
  • Vitamin D fortified cereals and beverages, Oatmeal.
  • Portobello and Shiitake mushrooms, Tofu, Orange juice, Egg Yolks and Sour Cream.


How can we all improve our health by getting more Vitamin D?

  • Stronger bones and decrease chances of bone related diseases such as Osteomalacia (softening of the bones), Osteoporosis and Rickets (bow-legged appearance) in infants and children.
  • Prevent certain cancers such as breast cancer, prostate cancer and colon cancer.
  • Increases the hormonal active metabolite Calcitriol, which helps regulate cell cycles inducing apoptosis to promote anti-inflammation on cancerous tissues from further progressing in the blood vessels.
  • Foods rich in Vitamin D can help lose fat especially around the waist and build overall muscle. This helps you stay leaner and stronger as it increases the ability to contract power and create force.
  • Increases levels of dopamine, serotonin and endorphins as we are more likely to be happier and feel calmer as the levels of cortisol are well balanced.
  • Builds a stronger immune system which promotes cell to cell communication, aids recovering from both internal and external injuries.

All information in this article, could also be found on the internet.

But at times we need a gentle reminder. As to why we must attend to our bodies and take care of ourselves. I hope this article reaches you in good health, great intentions being the purpose of me writing it.